So I have been listening to the radio surrounding the aborted start. McLaren fucked up with both cars and asked them to pull away. Same with Mercedes, VCARB and Haas. Alpine gave the correct instructions to wait and switch off and followed the rules to the T but then were forced to go because the others in front went. Same as Alpine for all the remaining teams (Red Bull, Ferrari, Aston, Williams and Sauber).
Frankly the McLarens, Mercs, VCARBs and Haases should be penalized.
for those without a F1TV account, here are full team radio recordings: https://www.youtube.com/@InsideTheCockpit2/videos
afaik McLaren was pretty clear to Norris on not to go, but yes
No. McLaren never told Norris to stay. It seemed like he went as soon as he heard and saw aborted start and the next thing Will tells him is recharge on. The teams who got it right specifically told their drivers to stay put and switch off the car.